When I was dealing with infertility, I remember thinking of adoption as second best, and as though I would be a failure if I had to adopt and couldn't have biological children. When I started the process, I was still a little hesitant.
Once I met my son's birth mom, that opinion changed. Seeing how she loved her son selflessly enough to give him to someone who could care for him the way he needed showed me the beauty of adoption. It showed me that adoption isn't a backup plan, but an amazing gift.